Sunday, June 12, 2016
Most of us have heard of the empty nest awareness day. When our children get older decide to face the world and fly the nest (our home) as we are left with an empty nest. Well, in recent years the empty nest has been filling back up and the Crowded Nest Syndrome has started to get rather popular.
I am a member that belong to the crowded nest bunch. You see each of my children have moved out a time or two and for one reason or another have had to or decided to come back home to live. A few of them bringing their husband and another came back home bringing 2 children. Now I love each and every one of them and glad they trusted to come back home but there has been a few problems along the way.
Crowded Nest Awareness Day recognizes the problems faced during the Crowded Nest Syndrome or CNS. The other side of this that happens to many families is that the children are still there and parents or in-laws need a safe placeas well. This is where it gets a bit crowded. It seems to be growing as the unemployment has rose and the housing bubble has popped.
The bible gives parents a set of objectives that stays the same no matter the age of our child. It is our job to help our children to become followers of christ, godly men and women (Malachi 2:15 and Ephesians 6:4)
We all love our children and want the best for them. It will be hard to decide when to give "tough love" , when to speak or remain silent or when to offer help. Some times we want to help too much when they want to be independent just need a little help. Other times they have lost their sensibility and it will take tough love to get them back on track. Some times our opinion is not what they are
looking for but yet they don't see the entire picture sometimes we have to let them get their own selves into trouble and helping them out of trouble is our job.
boundaries and expectations should be clearly set. Responsible behavior should be clearly described before an adult child moves back in. A conversation about rent, helping around the house, and other hot topics should be completed before child moves back home. Conversations should continue to take place consistently so that all needs both parents and child are met.
If you are in a situation like this enjoy life a bit for every challenge in life has an answer.